Like most of those that we here at Futterman, Sirotkin and Seinfeld, LLP work with in cases involving nursing home abuse, you likely stand ready to initiate action if you ever got word that a loved one confined to a care center in Queens was experiencing abuse. However, in order to try and help him or her, you first need to know if abuse is actually happening. Yet your family member or friend may indeed be suffering abuse, yet not telling you about it.
The National Center on Elder Abuse reports that information shared by the New York State Elder Abuse Prevalence Study shows that for every case of abuse brought to light, 24 remain unreported. Why would your loved not share that he or she is being abused? There may be a number of reasons.
The first and easiest to understand is fear. He or she may worry that were news of abuse to get out, the person or parties perpetrating it may retaliate. With you not around to protect them at all times, such fears may be well-founded. Your family member or friend may also fear that you or others will not believe his or her claims, further compounding any depression he or she may be experiencing due the abuse.
Another reason why your loved may not be telling you about abuse is shame. Abusers often make their victims feel as though their own actions warranted such treatment. These feelings can easily cause your family member or friend to become withdrawn rather than speaking out.
Knowing that your loved one is unlikely to share stories of abuse may place greater responsibility on you to spot the untold signs and symptoms of it. Information detailing what those may be can found by continuing to explore our site.